How to relate

This might only be about them.  About helping them transition to their new selves in every moment through your awareness, your attention. It’s no time to make it about you. Living as an inspiration, not perfection. Stop enforcing ways and just allow them to find their way. Turn the microphone over to them. Listen. Learn. Validate.

Gottme

4 Steps to Practising Empathy, from the Gottman Institute:

1. Listen without judgment

2. Look for feelings

3. Sit in the feeling with them

4. Summarize and validate

Except that I do believe in telling them my thoughts and feelings regarding their summary once I've gone through this process. Otherwise, what are other humans there for but to share new ways of experiencing the world?

Quiet

When you find a rare moment of stillness, of quiet,
Resist the urge of rushing in with business, with noise.